He looked at me and said, “You’re not like her.” We had an argument the night before. Though calling it an argument presumes both of us were yelling, which wasn’t the case. It was an ambush. He unloaded on me while he was standing in our bedroom doorway and I was lying down, having gone
I. Protect Yourself Financially When you first find out about your spouse’s infidelity, pure shock likely will be your initial reaction. It is difficult to think clearly when you are in shock. If in addition, your spouse promises to discontinue the affair, it is tempting to trust him and believe he will indeed do so.
I saw this text when I checked his phone after Scott went to bed on a Friday night in August, a full 14 months after his initial admission and promise he would stop seeing her. It wasn’t like we didn’t work on our marriage over the 14-month time period. We started couples’ therapy right away.
I. Get Tested Once you discover your husband has had sexual relations with the other woman, you must assume you have been exposed to whatever sexual cesspool she has been in. It is therefore critical you get tested for STD’s, no matter how embarrassed you might be by the prospect. You need to do this
Scott moved out of the house the following year, on a Sunday morning, the first week of October. “I need the space to decide if I really want to be in the marriage,” was his excuse. A few weeks earlier, he told me he was thinking of moving out, then kept me in suspense while
I. Take Control of the Family Finances Your husband just moved out, saying he needed space. There is another woman, she is younger, and has two small kids. She is a part time spin instructor. He told you he wasn’t leaving you for her but at this point you know he is lying. Her profile
I needed to find a different lawyer. Wanda (with Jeffry sometimes coming in as additional firepower) just didn’t feel right to me. I had gone to Jeffry initially at the recommendation of a friend who had been represented by him. He was one of Boston’s “Lawyers to the Stars,” well known as the best pit
I. Choosing a Lawyer Managing the legal process is unbelievably tough, especially when you are in a fragile emotional state. Picking a divorce lawyer is one of the most important decisions you will make. Of course you must choose a capable and affordable lawyer, one who has been well recommended. Moreover, a high degree of
Scott’s first suspicious cash withdrawal occurred in the fall of 2008. He announced his “emotional affair” with Wendi in June of 2010. Had he been screwing her for almost two years BEFORE telling me, and even then, lying about the extent of his affair? I was shocked, confused and hurt. By now, these feelings were
I. Looking at a Settlement Offer You (or your husband) have formally filed for divorce. You both want to move on with your life. Naturally, you are anxious to get past the divorce process. Or maybe, like me, you have started to uncover unsavory information about him. You want to dig more deeply into his