I. Protect Yourself Financially  When you first find out about your spouse’s infidelity, pure shock likely will be your initial reaction. It is difficult to think clearly when you are in shock. If in addition, your spouse promises to discontinue the affair, it is tempting to trust him and believe he will indeed do so.

I. Get Tested Once you discover your husband has had sexual relations with the other woman, you must assume you have been exposed to whatever sexual cesspool she has been in. It is therefore critical you get tested for STD’s, no matter how embarrassed you might be by the prospect. You need to do this

I. Take Control of the Family Finances Your husband just moved out, saying he needed space. There is another woman, she is younger, and has two small kids. She is a part time spin instructor. He told you he wasn’t leaving you for her but at this point you know he is lying. Her profile

I. Choosing a Lawyer Managing the legal process is unbelievably tough, especially when you are in a fragile emotional state. Picking a divorce lawyer is one of the most important decisions you will make. Of course you must choose a capable and affordable lawyer, one who has been well recommended. Moreover, a high degree of

I. Looking at a Settlement Offer You (or your husband) have formally filed for divorce. You both want to move on with your life. Naturally, you are anxious to get past the divorce process. Or maybe, like me, you have started to uncover unsavory information about him. You want to dig more deeply into his

I. Researching Phone Numbers He Has Called Whether or not your husband has a hidden phone, a time may come when you start to wonder whether there is more than one woman, or even a prostitute habit. As a result, you may want to research all of the phone numbers he has called on either

Even in the best of circumstances, going through a divorce is a gut-wrenching process filled with uncertainty about how it will impact your kids, how you will end up financially and who you will be as a single person. The uncertainty can turn the most confident and decisive person into a totally different beast. Some of

To prove your spouse has been unfaithful, you have collected and analyzed your records and subpoenaed documents. When the information indicates extensive spending in a variety of places (and even on a variety of women), you may feel overwhelmed by all the details. How do you weave them together into stories explaining his pattern of

Sleuthing to find your husband’s dating profiles requires a bit of creativity and a lot of trial and error. A critical step is finding the first profile. Once you have found it, you can begin google searching the pieces of the profile, iteratively unearthing more and more of the puzzle. I. Methods for Discovering Dating Profiles

If your spouse’s bad behavior will be addressed in his deposition, your attorney needs hard proof to back up the infidelity questions. This was especially true for me because of Scott’s history of compulsive and pervasive lying. We were certain he would not admit to anything unless irrefutable evidence was staring him in the face.