He looked at me and said, “You’re not like her.” We had an argument the night before. Though calling it an argument presumes both of us were yelling, which wasn’t the case. It was an ambush. He unloaded on me while he was standing in our bedroom doorway and I was lying down, having gone

I saw this text when I checked his phone after Scott went to bed on a Friday night in August, a full 14 months after his initial admission and promise he would stop seeing her. It wasn’t like we didn’t work on our marriage over the 14-month time period. We started couples’ therapy right away.

Scott moved out of the house the following year, on a Sunday morning, the first week of October. “I need the space to decide if I really want to be in the marriage,” was his excuse. A few weeks earlier, he told me he was thinking of moving out, then kept me in suspense while

I needed to find a different lawyer. Wanda (with Jeffry sometimes coming in as additional firepower) just didn’t feel right to me. I had gone to Jeffry initially at the recommendation of a friend who had been represented by him. He was one of Boston’s “Lawyers to the Stars,” well known as the best pit

Scott’s first suspicious cash withdrawal occurred in the fall of 2008. He announced his “emotional affair” with Wendi in June of 2010. Had he been screwing her for almost two years BEFORE telling me, and even then, lying about the extent of his affair? I was shocked, confused and hurt. By now, these feelings were

The Virgin Mobile subpoena was initially unsuccessful. They required both the credit card information (which we had) and the phone number (which we didn’t). The subpoenas to Victoria’s Secret, Jewelry by Alex and other retailers were equally disappointing. We did get some useful information from the PayPal subpoena, which indicated Scott had used two emails

Our couples’ therapist, in the two plus years we saw him before Scott and I separated, was at best ineffectual. At worst, he was harmful to me personally. I did not feel safe in our therapy sessions. The two of them often tag teamed to practice INDIVIDUAL therapy on me. Of course Scott now deemed

My lawyers asked if I could write vignettes about Scott’s behavior – snapshots of what he was doing at particular points in time. They thought this would be helpful in preparing their deposition and trial questions – for both him and me. I thought it was a great idea. It would serve the additional purpose

Scott’s credit card records made clear he had paid for memberships to quite a few dating websites, particularly sites where men were searching for sugar babies, mistresses and hookups. I didn’t search for his profiles on those websites while we were collecting evidence, however. In part, I assumed they would be too hard to find.

The first day of Scott’s multi-day deposition was December 2, 2013, about eleven months after we had filed for divorce. It didn’t take my attorney long to begin asking Scott about all of the women, some of whom Scott knew we would be asking about. They had been on our witness list, which we were